Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems amongst males. It is a condition whereby ejaculation takes place immediately after commencing sex. 2 out of 3 men’s are believed to ejaculate quickly or rather put as too soon. All males ejaculates quickly and this can be seen from other animals. Just observe goats, horses and other animals mating. They do not last longer than a minute after penetration. With humans, there are those few males who have mastered the techniques that enable them to last longer than it is required. Those with premature ejaculation issues if not treated, it will go on to haunt them up to the point where sexual interest decreases.
It is important to understand the true cause of your premature ejaculation. Ejaculation times vary from people to peoples. Some peoples ejaculate in less than a minute, other can go up to 3 minutes and it is so bad for some that they ejaculate upon entry also known as penile vaginal contact. Men’s wants to last longer in bed whilst women’s wants to have at least 15 minutes of intimate connection even if they don’t climax. If a male cannot last at least that long, he is has failed to sexually provide and satisfy his partner.
Premature ejaculations are known to;
- Cause breakups for those dating
- Cause divorces for those married
- Reduce one’s confidence sexually
- Undermine a male masculinity
Basically, they cause distance between partners in relationships. Sometimes the other partner is too ashamed to admit or suggest that they get help.
What causes premature ejaculations?
Premature ejaculations are most likely caused by any of the following:
- Performance anxiety
- Learned behaviour
- Fatique
- Insufficient arousal
I am more interested in learned behaviour. I am sure this starts from childhood. Majority of boys that are not sexually active ease the pressure by helping themselves. The problem comes from the fact that they do this in a hurry in fear of getting caught. No one wants to be caught jacking off because if word goes out, you will be labelled especially in high school. That attitude of doing it fast is learned and stored by the brain and it becomes a pattern. When the dude is finally sexually active, that pattern is recalled. The problem is initially thought of as a result of being the first time. If it continues on for long for long enough to stir up suspicion, the confidence will start to fade slowly. It becomes a big problem if the girl tells her friend about it, which always leads to never getting some ever again. If married, it is most likely to end in a divorce.
Known Premature Ejaculation Treatments
Sex forums and sex therapists are always bombarded with question like
- How can I stop premature ejaculation?
- What is the cure for premature ejaculations?
- My boyfriend/husband suffers from premature ejaculations. What should I do?
In most cases, the therapist would always recommend some of the following cures
Hypnosis –
This is not a cure on its own. That is, it is not a complete cure but it helps improve or increase one’s sexual confidence.
Pills –
Just perform a search for premature ejaculations pills and you will get many hits of which some of the pills are just not safe to use as they could have some nasty side effects. The bottom line is, some people will not and probably never respond to these pills.
Squeeze –
This is not a solution to premature ejaculation. The procedure itself is painful and takes away all the fun. It apparently works on some peoples and not on others. The technique involves the other partner squeezing the tip of the penis for about 10 to 20 seconds when climax is near. It is then advised that a waiting period of 30 seconds to minute is allowed before continuing.
Ring –
The main purpose of wearing a ring is to help sustain an erection after an ejaculation. Compared with the squeeze, it is extremely painful.
Cream –
Creams are not permanent solutions and they can get quite pricy. They also take away the fun leaving both male and female sexual organs numb. I have heard of a good cream that apparently works wonder called Vivaxa.
Others –
There are all kinds of methods peoples have come up with such as start & stop, wearing tight condoms, self distraction, talking, shorter circular thrusts & more.
Some people have tried everything there is to do on curing premature ejaculations. When they reach this stage, they start thinking of curing their premature ejaculations naturally. This is probably the best and affordable way of doing it. Curing premature ejaculations naturally could result into a permanent solution. This can only be achieved by training one’s body to take control of the situation. Hypnosis is a good place to start but then it needs to be supplemented with other methods.
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